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More Excuses

Wednesday, June 24th, 2009

Yesterday’s blog was about the excuses students make to professors.  My friend Lynn Hunter, an author, writer and poet, also taught in the community college.  Her poem Excuses describes her struggle with classroom justice and mercy.

Excuses

Because my grandmother died: it’s a line
older than dirt.  I myself have used  it.
Now behind the lectern when term papers are due,
I collect excuses–from this one
in pink high-tops, another with proud
canary hair, a third with a lilting
name and a ring in her nose.  I need
an extension, each one begins, because:
1. My boyfriend was murdered and I had to give my baby away.
2. My mother was on life-support and we had to unplug her.
3. I had to rush my roommate to detox after she smoked a pair of hemp sandals.
With clinical eyes, they measure my response:
Does my face fill with pity?  Does my mouth form
a compassionate O?  Does my grade book
appear, and is an extension recorded?
Ah, my vicarious daughters–they have
no real reasons.  And, because their cheeks
are still lined with babyfat; because
their lies are rich and dumb and plain as milk;
because, soon enough, a boyfriend will
die, someone will lose her baby, drive
a loved one  to detox,  unplug her
mother from a respirator; my
face fills with pity, my mouth forms a
compassionate O,  and I give them two weeks more.

Poem: Lynn Dean Hunter, © Copyright 1999, used with permission

Excuses, Excuses

Tuesday, June 23rd, 2009

I taught math at a community college for fourteen years.  Students had lots of excuses for why they couldn’t take a test or were absent or turned in an assignment late. 

The week my mother died, one student came to me and said his mother had died.  Another student told me his father died.  Three parental deaths in the same classroom during a week with a test?  I was skeptical.  I was mourning and in no mood to deal with fake deaths.  But there were no lies in their stories: the mother died of a diabetic coma; the father committed suicide. 

After that experience, I tried to listen with more care and less eye-rolling.  I withheld quick and obvious judgments.  I’m sure I was scammed sometimes.  But “judgment without mercy will be shown to anyone who has not been merciful. Mercy triumphs over judgment!” says James in Chapter 2:13 (NIV) . There’s a ambiguous line between justice and mercy.  Sometimes my need to keep an open and compassionate heart is more important than the truth of the tale.